IF you are as likely as not you'll be suffering some stress and you may well be grieving too. Be prepared there is a CONGAline of people all too ready to tell you what you have to do, or need to do, or what you are required to do long before they ask you anything ... like how are you for instance ... or, what do you want to do ... or, can I/we help in any way.
Mostly, these people will be bureaucrats (AKA public servants) who see themselves as 'THEauthority' and you simply as 'a subject' to be informed of the rules and regulations that you must comply with. Most often they will be a bureaucratic underling and quite often one who reports to another bureaucratic underling somewhere in a TOPdown structure, and someone who is looking after THEIR job security and thus THEIR income. Mostly, these people have no real interest in your needs and your aspirations, your cultural reality, least of all have any interest as to why you might want to, need to, move a body.
After that, the then need to respectfully, and legally dispose of the mortal remains of a relative, member of a group, whatever needs to be understood. Oftentimes it is not because of bureaucratic imperatives.
Mostly, these people are employed to do what they do is because they lack the qualifications, experience, or whatever to be doing something else, but not always.
Mostly, these people will not interested in the diversity of belief systems other than their culturally inherited beliefs, sensitivities and sensibilities.
Mostly, the people all the way up and down the hierarchy they report to have inherited their beliefs etc. If those they advise share their predicament then the advice they offer will be most likely be fit-for-purpose. However, that is not always the case.
On the other hand, if there are two divergent 'cultural sensibilities' and with one presuming to dominate another and moreover is careless about the cultural or social observances in play the situation is ever likely to be loaded with offensive implications – none of which is appropriate or conducive to fostering cultural and social inclusion.
Consider this, a member of 'your group' dies and you share a belief system that suggests that:
- Their body should be respectfully disposed of after certain rituals have been observed; and
- Taken from one place to another to be buried or cremated in accord with protocols consistent with their beliefs and cultural realities; and that
- The protocols pose no known health risk or cause any legitimate social or cultural disruption; and
- A public servant intervenes to prevent the cultural protocols being observed and without there being any risk to 'the living';
However, and there must always be the MINDspace for 'however' there are alternatives to the heirarcal TOPdown bureaucratic 'system'. There are alternatives indicated HERE [LINK] and they may well add context to what is being advocated in this post.
All that said, the images below have been gleaned via social media as demonstration that in many if not most 'places' the means are available to anyone who has a need to move a deceased person from their place of death to a place that fits the aspirations of the deceased in life as to where and how they might have their remains disposed of respectfully.
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